What Your Man Really Wants

I often times hear the same questions asked: Why is he cheating on me; why is he acting so different; why doesn't he understand that I am tired; why can't he help out; why does he have to hang out so much with his friends; why is he not eating the food I prepare; why isn't he affectionate towards me; why does he stay out late at night; why is he working late - again; why doesn't he take me out more? And the list goes on and on. So I decided to figure it out for myself and ask some men the same questions the women ask and see if I can get some answers for the ladies.

THE MEN SPEAK:

1. Your man needs to feel respected in his home. Some women tend to demean the man of the house by speaking to them in any manner with no respect to a man's manhood. A man is suppose to feel like the king of his house. When you take that away, ladies, then the man goes elsewhere to find that respect he is lacking at home.

2. Your man needs SEX. Yes that's right I said it! Why withhold what belongs to him rightfully. A man cannot function without intimacy ( and some women too), which is in most cases making love to his beautiful wife. If you use sex as a weapon against him to get your way then guess what, he is going to go find it elsewhere. In most cases its not hard to find. You drop the ball and another woman are there salivating over him waiting for you to mess up so that she can "give him" what he needs.

3. Your man needs a friend, not just a lover. He wants to have someone apart from 'the guys' or his Momma to share his dreams with. He wants to know that there is someone there to lend a listening ear to his hard day at work, or his rough time out there on the roadway trying to get home to you. Figure out what he likes to do in his past time and surprise him- sit on the couch and watch some football, you just might like trash-talking men on the sidelines.

4. Your man needs affectionand wants to be pampered sometimes. This is not a one way street ladies. Most men like the same attention and affection they show you. Surprise him with a back rub, or sensual massage. Give him a pedicure, and kiss his neck every once in a while. Even grab his buttocks if you feel like it. After all, he is your husband.

5. Your man likes a clean home and a woman that can cook a good home-cooked meal. Not some Boston Market take-out or fast food on the way home dinner. When he comes home from a hard days work, he wants to walk into his safe haven greeted at the front door with the aroma from a well balanced home made meal prepared by his wife. Now ladies, no one is telling you to do this every day if you cannot handle it, but ever so often would be nice. I have heard the stories by men who fall prey to women who make sure that they are fed "good food" and they love that. As a result, your man start 'eating out' and spend less time eating the 'fast food'- if any that you prepare.

6. Your man needs to feel trusted. A woman who is not always "breathing down his neck" - "where you going; what you doing; how long will you be out with your friends; why you smell like perfume; I need a new pair of shoes; I need more bags and purses; etc. What I have found out is, most men in relationships get bombarded with the question, "are you cheating on me?" Initially, they aren't, but because their woman keeps accusing them of it, "it drives them to do it" according to some of the men. Not a great reason for cheating, so women we need to let well alone. You need to build trust. Men need their space, as much as a woman do. So give him some space, let him breathe and brag to his friends the kind of woman he has ( one that doesn't keep tabs on him). One that trusts him.

TIP:  Vital to every relationship, are effective communication and trust in your spouse.  LOVE is definately a key cornerstone, because pure unconditional love will bring forth compromise instead of conflict; and boost the sacredness of a great covenant union which is the oath you took before God and man to honor and respect each other.